Baby, Baby, Baby...

At first glance, it may seem like this post is going to be about children. This is a fair guess considering that most of my posts have been geared towards the under 18 set (or their parents). But I do also provide services for adults and a big part of many adults' lives is relationships. This article is about the science of relationships. More specifically, the neuroscience of the love language that couples use in their relationships. I'm talking about when couples call each other pet names. It may seem inexplicable as to why couples use pet names to refer to each other, but there are actually neurotransmitters in the brain that release "feel good" hormones when you both use and hear these words of affection. Furthermore, these sweet names are linked to one's childhood (ah-this is where we get back to the under 18 set). Using pet names actually brings us back to a time when love was (or should have been) constant and automatic. In other words, pet names bring us emotionally back to a time when we felt safe, secure, and unconditionally loved.

If you are in a relationship, take some time to think about pet names. Do you use them? Are they personal to you and your partner? How do you feel when you are saying them or hearing them? If you don't have a pet name for your partner, consider using one. It gives you a chance to share something with your partner that no one else does. A connection, a game, a bond that is unique to you two. Try it out for a few weeks and see how you feel. Believe it or not, you may actually be changing your brain chemistry and falling for your partner even more.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201312/the-real-reason-why-couples-use-baby-talk

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