I had a professor in graduate school who would tell his students when they entered the program that college was for all students. While I worked closely with this professor and took some of his classes, I was not in his program so I heard this statement second-hand from some of his students. Most of the students who mentioned this to me disagreed with his philosophy. They believed that college wasn't necessarily for everyone; that there were some students who simply couldn't handle college or really didn't belong there. At the time, I honestly didn't know what to think. However, after reading this article and gathering information over the years about expectancy theory and the Pygmalion Effect (another blog post at another time), I realized that my professor was right. The authors in this article state that college isn't for everyone, but that we still don't have nearly enough students in college. I agree that college isn't for everyone, but we should assume that it is. There are many students that are told that they won't make it in college; that they can't or won't be successful. But so many of those students are capable-they just need a little encouragement and an adult who actually believes in them. So while I'm not sure that every child should actually go to college, I do agree with my professor-we should at least act as if they should. Check out the article and then let me know what you think. Comment below, tweet me @fpschDrSweeney, or contact me directly. Enjoy!
This is one of the least scientific articles that you'll see me post. In my opinion, the title is a bit of a misnomer. Yes, therapy can be expensive, but there are so many options-especially if you live in and around a large city like DC-for finding therapists who do pro-bono work and offer a sliding scale (reduced rate depending on your salary). There are also many foundations and other organizations who offer services for free so please please don't make the mistake of putting of seeking help if you need it because you think you can't afford it. More than likely, you can find something that fits your emotional and financial needs.
That being said, I think that this article offers some great tips and resources between therapy sessions. I wouldn't advocate using them in lieu of therapy, but if you waiting for an appointment to open up with a preferred therapist or reducing the amount of time you see your therapist, these offer some great options for ways to cope. There are many things listed so don't feel that you have to use all, or even most, of them. Pick one or two options-such as a hotline and an online support community-and use as needed. They may be just the thing to get you over the hump.
Enjoy and feel free to comment here, @fpschDrSweeney, or contact me directly. Happy Friday!