This article is helpful in getting parents to think about the tantrum or meltdown from their child's point of view. To understand where they are coming from and to build a bond with them in the midst of all that screaming. Check out the article and use some of the tips. Let me know in the comments which were helpful and which were useless. Hopefully these helped to shorten that tantrum or at least you as the parent feel less frazzled when it happens.